He thinks I wear the pants in the relationship?

Your obviously not on the same page. He a man with a very big ego and anger is the only way he knows how to protect it. If you want to keep peace then keep your mouth shut and when something goes wrong with his way or the the way he thought it should be you just say "I should have told you so." He really is going to have to find out things for himself. He's just that kind of person. And you are not going to change him.